Accumulated stress makes your physical body vulnerable to bacteria, viruses, and infections. It also makes us susceptible to mental health issues. To get back into the body and reconnect your energy circuitry, you need to learn pragmatic practices of relaxing and allowing the energy in the situation to move you emotionally or physically.
In long-term relationships, we tend to focus on our partner’s limitations or the restrictions they impose on us rather than helping them heal or break free from them.
Intimate attraction isn’t rational; the desires of our bodies are formed over thousands of years, extending back to our most distant ancestors.
How can you navigate divorce gracefully and with compassion – for yourself and all those affected – so that you’re free from regret and self-recrimination?
There’s a tricky relationship with time that we experience when we are lost in thought or the swirling hyperlinked pages within cyberspace. Time can race, it can slow, and it can stop altogether. But curiously, this experience collapses into the present moment as soon as we experience touch.
We like to fantasize that life with a significant other will be like a rom-com. We get a taste of it early in the relationship — what we call the honeymoon phase, the “New Relationship Energy” — and it's incredibly addictive.
But when the downside comes, and we first experience some kind of pain, we get stuck because we haven’t yet developed the skills to bloom the relationship back open into something greater. It seems gravity will always pull us back down.
There’s a pervasive problem we’re facing in the world right now.
As men, we often feel like we have to do it all ourselves, and alone. The whole world sits on our shoulders.
We think we need to push through life with egoic determination, gritting our teeth and pushing through all the obstacles and challenges that arise.
In doing this we are creating more tension and pain in our bodies. We often bear the resulting physical and emotional scars with pride, as a sign of masculine accomplishment.
Unfortunately, this way of approaching matters is unsustainable. You might be able to maverick through when you’re a bit younger and in peak condition, but eventually, it’s no longer possible and it all comes crashing down.
